Currently, you’ve been supporting a close friend or family member who has been facing mental health challenges. You’ve seen them struggling and observed their changing behavior over time. You know that they’ve been facing these challenges for some time now, and it becomes increasingly clear that they can’t handle it by themselves, and they need professional help. However, they might be hesitant or openly against getting help. “It’s none of your business”, or “I’m doing just fine” is a line many of us have heard when confronting a loved one struggling with mental health issues.

Discussing one’s own vulnerabilities and mental health issues can be very uncomfortable. It’s important to prepare for this conversation. Find a quiet and comfortable space, free from distractions, and choose a moment when both of you are feeling relaxed and at ease. Words matter, and how you express your concerns can bring different reactions. Begin by using “I” statements to express your concerns. For instance, you might say, “I’ve noticed that you’ve been going through a tough time, and I’m concerned about your well-being.”

Be empathetic and non-judgmental. Recognize the stigma and fear that often surround the idea of seeking professional help. One of the reasons they’re hesitant to see a professional might stem from fear of self or others’ judgment. Let your loved one know that your intention is to support them, not to judge or criticize. This reassurance can set a supportive tone for the discussion.

Share your observations with care and detail. Mention instances where you’ve noticed changes in their behavior, mood, or overall well-being. Sharing these observations allows them to see that their struggles are not unnoticed and that you genuinely care. As the conversation progresses, gently suggest seeking professional help as an option they can consider. Emphasize that they don’t have to face their challenges alone and that professionals are equipped to provide effective support. Rather than making demands, offer collaboration. Propose that you help find suitable therapists or doctors, attend appointments with them, or provide transportation if needed. Note that your loved one might already be considering seeing a professional but may be hesitant for any number of reasons. Convincing them that you can be trusted to discuss these hesitations is key so they feel safe opening up to you.

Highlight the potential benefits of seeing a therapist/counselor. Learning a coping skill, building new habits, or unlearning maladaptive patterns, these are all possible when both your loved one and the therapist commit together. Encourage a sense of empowerment and self-care. It’s important not to assume to understand how they’re feeling or thinking inside. Mistaking how they feel or think after a loved one opens themselves up might make them feel unheard and unappreciated. On the other hand, being too persistent can come across as being to pushy, which might make them feel uncomfortable. Finding the right balance between encouraging and supportive of their opinions.

At the end of the day, we must respect their decision. Remember that the choice to seek professional help is a personal one. Your role is to provide empathy and encouragement, creating a safe and understanding space for them to make the best decision for them. Regardless of their decision, offer your continued support and understanding as they make their decision.